Mom’s Lesson No – 2

It is very difficult to explain this lesson. Maybe, this is specific to our culture. Let me try.

I remember once when I was younger, I had gone out with my cousins and uncles and aunties to some program. And every family was going to bring some food to have in the late afternoon. My mother couldn’t come but she gave with us her home-cooked idlis and told us to give it to others. We (me and my father) had already eaten our share at home so she expected that we will not have them again from what she had given for uncle and aunties.

When we came back home, she asked us, ‘you didn’t eat idlis again, right?’ And I was confused, why was I not supposed to eat them? I told her I ate a couple of them and so did the father. She was really angry if not furious. She asked me if I had not had enough idlis at home that I had eaten the ones she prepared for others.

It is not a bad memory for me. But it makes me practice self-control. Just because you like something or somebody is offering you something does not mean you should take it. You should know if you really need it? or in this case, if it was for you? Why have you brought it with you all the way?

As I grew up, this lesson has imbibed in me. And I have experienced the joy of sharing and the happiness we get by giving more and more to others. In this Idli example, if I would have not eaten the idlis, somebody else who loves them as much would have got to eat more. And if everyone was full, somebody would have taken them home and enjoyed later. I should understand that I have nothing to lose here. Because my mother prepared them and she can prepare them anytime for me. Whereas the other person might not know how to exactly prepare them and he might not get to eat them as often. I am only gaining the blessings and good vibes every time the other person is having the bite of his life. 🙂

I have a lot of people around me who have already learnt this lesson. And I feel so blessed to have them. Every time any of my cousins or any aunty gives me something that I like or I want and they just give it to me without a second thought I feel like what good have I done to deserve this love? At the same time, they also remind me of this lesson, of the joy of giving, sharing, the happiness and the blessings.

I have also seen the other side. People who haven’t learnt the lesson. And believe me, a lot of people don’t learn it for the major part of their lives .They make me feel good about myself. Good, for having learnt this lesson and for having a mom who taught me that lesson.

Thank God for mothers!

I am 30 right now, and I want to run to my mother at every chance I can get.

But that is not possible, because I am caught up in my own world. My mom is always available though. But she will not like if I run to her leaving behind my chores.

That’s an important thing I learned from my mother.

Give importance to things that have priority. If eating healthy food is a priority then don’t oversleep in the morning. Get up and get your meals ready!

If cleanliness is a priority then slog a little and make sure you maintain it.

If you have some priority work, first make time for it and then do your leisure activities.

Being a woman is not easy, and only a woman can make or break a family.

Every day, almost every moment I think of my mother. What she would have done if she was in my place? Can I justify my actions to her? Will I pass the test?

I cannot stop myself from recollecting a scene from the movie The 6th sense. At the very end, the boy tells his mother that he sees his grandma’s ghost many times and grandma has a message for his mother. That yes, she is proud of her daughter. An answer to the question that his mother keeps asking herself. Is she leaving up to her mother?

I can totally feel her.

Every time I tell my mom something, I am worried about her reaction. What will be her judgement? Haha! Don’t get me wrong. My mom isn’t rude, But she is very strict and straightforward when she has to discipline her kids. And although I am an adult now, I go back to her, not to get disciplined but to make sure that I have understood the (life) lessons correctly and if I am following it rightly.

I so want to write down about these lessons. To make sure I never forget them. And also to share with others who can use them to teach their kids! 🙂

Thank God for mothers!